Deciding that a marriage needs to end is a particularly stressful time in anybody’s life. Add in the pandemic and the associated increase in domestic violence, lockdowns, unemployment and financial stress, and it’s a perfect storm.

But if you are going through a separation or divorce in these difficult times, there are some things you can do to stay calm and achieve the best outcome possible.

  1. Contact a family lawyer and obtain advice as soon as possible. This will help ensure that your financial affairs and custody arrangements are protected by experienced professionals.
  2. Make a list of ‘discussion points’ when you are feeling calm. This will limit some of the emotion you may experience when discussing difficult matters with your spouse.
  3. Consider seeing a psychologist or counsellor to ensure that you can continue to cooperate and communicate with your spouse wherever possible. It may also be helpful to have sessions with your spouse.
  4. Engage in self-care: exercise, eat well, and look after yourself. Be kind to yourself and don’t engage in the ‘blame game’ – whether against your spouse or yourself. This will serve no purpose other than to upset you.
  5. Focus on a brighter future and try to remain positive. Consider engaging in a new hobby that will help you to re-establish your identity as a ‘single’ person and not part of a married or de facto family unit.

Separation and divorce is difficult – but you can get through it with the right support.

If you’re separating, contact Pentana Stanton for expert family law advice.