Many of us spend long hours working to provide for ourselves and our families, and quite often it’s a daily affair with little reason to think of contacting a lawyer. But what should you do when the unthinkable happens and you suddenly require a professional legal expert for workplace-related issues? 

Employment law can be complex, and many employers can intimidate you and leave you feeling hopeless. Don’t despair, employment law experts can help you navigate your rights and provide you with professional legal advice and representation as required. Here are some of the most common reasons that you should consider seeking help from an employment lawyer:

Unfair Dismissal

One of the most common enquiries we receive involves unfair dismissals. If you’ve recently been terminated for reasons that you believe are unfair, it’s possible that your employer violated your rights and you may be entitled to compensation. 

Employers and employees alike must abide by Australia’s Fair Work Act, but there may be times where your employer has violated this act either knowingly or unknowingly.  We can help you to seek redress if this has occurred.  

Losing your job can have many implications.  It can take time to find new employment and you will need to pay all your bills regardless of losing your job.  If you are entitled to additional payments this will help you to get through.  

Discrimination & Harassment

Workplace discrimination and harassment comes in various forms. If you’ve been discriminated against on the grounds of your ethnicity, gender, age, or personal beliefs by your employer, it’s best to contact a lawyer to help you out. Likewise, sexual harassment has no place in today’s workplace but unfortunately still occurs.

If you’re a victim of workplace discrimination or harassment, it may feel like there’s nobody to turn to. Lawyers can help preserve your dignity and help you seek justice for unfair treatment in the workplace.

Termination & Severance Package Negotiations

It’s normal in most business cycles to go through peaks and troughs, and employees are often let go when times are rough. If you’re having trouble receiving a severance package or feel that you’re not getting a fair deal, an employment lawyer can help you negotiate for a better deal, minimise impacts to your future employability, and secure any payments that may be owed to you.

Quite often, many Australians choose to leave their current employer before retirement age to turn over a new leaf. This may mean foregoing retirement packages at times, but it doesn’t mean that you cannot negotiate for a fair exit package altogether.

Workplace Injuries

Occupational workplace safety is a great concern not to be ignored. Unfortunately, Australian workplace injuries are very common and can often be avoided altogether. If you’ve been injured at work, it’s important that you understand your rights and take action where necessary to seek appropriate compensation. 

Our lawyers assist workers who have been injured in the workplace to obtain what is fair and reasonable and help them into the future. 

Reviewing Job Offers

Pondering a new job offer and not sure it’s right for you? Employment contracts can be long and full of unpleasant surprises that may be overlooked, or even worse, may violate your rights as an employee. A legal expert can help to review and assess your employment contract, negotiate fair terms to ensure that your new job contract can be signed with confidence.

Starting a new job can be exciting.  Often the only focus is the job and the detail in your contract gets overlooked until issues arise. Our lawyers will help you handle this transition with confidence and ensure that your best interest is looked after. 

What Should You Do?

Don’t take your chances if you feel that your employment rights have been violated. If you’re in Melbourne or Dandenong, come visit us at Pentana Stanton Lawyers. Our friendly legal experts can help you negotiate a fair outcome and provide you with professional representation should you require it. 

A major area of family law is divorce. Unfortunately, divorces can create all sorts of additional difficulties if handled improperly and without professional legal guidance. If you’re going through a divorce, don’t despair. Pentana Stanton can help advocate on your behalf and arrange for guidance and representation throughout the divorce process. Here are five common difficulties of divorce and how you can overcome them.

1. Stress

Divorce can be an overwhelmingly stressful experience. Not only are you dealing with adjusting to an ended relationship, but you also have the added stress of dealing with legal disputes over property settlements and/or child custody. Pentana Stanton Family Lawyers can help you achieve favourable resolutions and will provide you with a personable yet professional approach every step of the way.

2. Co-Parenting Arrangements

If you’ve got children from your marriage, you need to ensure that your rights of custody are fair and equitable. The thought alone of being left with heavy alimony payments and no visitation rights can be unpleasant and stressful, not only on you but also on your children. The best way to negotiate for a better co-parenting arrangement is by allowing our professional solicitors to represent you.

3. Division of Property and Assets

If you’ve got a significant amount of property that you stand to lose, you’ll want to consult with a family law expert in order to help you retain as much of your assets as possible. In property settlement, one big mistake many people make is that they don’t properly account for all of their assets and end up losing more than expected to their spouse. Documentation, financial reports, and income tax statements can all help your lawyer to accurately ascertain your equity and thereby settle for a more favourable division of your assets.

4. Telling Friends and Family

Don’t neglect the emotional impact of divorce when it comes to telling your friends and family. Although you may be tempted to disclose frustrating aspects of the divorce with your friends and family, specific details should be best left to your lawyer during the divorce proceedings.
It may help you to confront your fear of telling friends and family, but don’t go sharing everything on social media! Be cautious about revealing details until a settlement or verdict has been reached.

5. Making Decisions During an Emotional Time

Clouded judgement, frustration, and stress can all lead to irrational or emotional behaviour during the divorce. While easier said than done, try to remain calm and composed and temper your emotions when dealing with your divorce. Professional family law practitioners can remain pragmatic and ply their expertise and knowledge of family law in Australia to help reduce much of your burden.

How to Overcome Divorce Difficulties

Overcoming divorce can be made much easier by getting the right support from experienced family lawyers. This way, you are not alone, judgement won’t be clouded by emotions and the process will be handled as professionally and efficiently as possible.

Separation, oftentimes, is not as simple as taking some space from your partner and changing your living situation. There are various factors you should take into consideration before separating in order to protect yourself and your family, safeguard your assets and save yourself the stress and time of potential divorce proceedings. Here are our top suggestions on what steps you can take to get started.

Establish What Is Best For The Children

A child has a right to access those who love or care for them. This refers not only to their parents but also grandparents, half-siblings and other family members from both sides. Set yourself the intention of serving your child’s needs first and not antagonising their other parent or jeopardising their relationship by withholding them from seeing or contacting their other parent and family members. Where there are safety concerns this may not be as easy or even possible. If there are safety concerns for your children you should seek legal assistance for advice to manage this and ensure your children’s best interest.  

Failing to maintain the relationship between the children and the other parent can be judged harshly in court and can have a negative impact on your child’s emotional wellbeing. So, make sure to discuss your living arrangements with your partner or a mediator so that they satisfy the needs of the children and ensure that they have access to both their parents.

From the legal end, be sure to seek advice from an experienced family lawyer as soon as you can to explain and clarify your rights and legal options.

Consider Your Pets Living Arrangement

Similarly, you will need to arrange the custody of any pets you may have had together as a couple. Many treat their pets as cherished members of the family but there are limitations with how Australian law handles the living arrangements for pets during separation. For example, in Case Law they are treated as property.

Usually, it is in everyone’s best interests that pets stay with the party they have a stronger attachment to, who takes on more care duties and financial care responsibilities. If you cannot determine who this is, then sharing pet custody, although rare, is not unheard of.

Can You Actually Afford To Live Separately?

This is referring to practical and financial affordances. It is often not practical for one or both parties to relocate immediately after the decision to separate, especially if you share ownership or tenancy of your home or don’t have close friends or relatives in close proximity.

If you do have the means to relocate, get the necessary conversations and questions sorted, papers signed, payments or bond paid and any other preparation arrangements made first before you separate physically so that you can move comfortably rather than rushing and then struggling.

In some cases, couples will reside together for a period during separation due to the financial situation, or to better meet the needs of the family and accommodate a more organic transition. This does not suit all situations and will depend on the discord in the home and how each party treats one another.

A major exception to this is for circumstances where a party or their children’s health, safety or wellbeing is at risk by staying in the family home. In these cases, you should seek the fastest, safest route to relocation or reach out to a relative or organisation. If possible, make sure to retain your passports, identification and any legal documentation that may be important.

Secure Your Valuables and Sentimental Items

This includes anything from silver and gold, jewellery, vehicles and heirlooms to photographs and items that hold sentimental value. Ensure that items you cannot keep in your possession are stored securely, perhaps in a safe or storage unit. It is often hard to get items once you have left the home, so take anything that is very precious with you.

Gather and Copy Your Documents

For efficiency and security sake, collecting all forms of important documentation and making copies before separating or any big transition in life is always good practice. This means:

  • Any forms of identification for the family: passports, children’s birth certificates, licenses, Medicare, change of name certificates
  • Marriage certificates
  • Wills
  • Mortgage documents, title certificates for the primary residence, lease documents
  • Any documents related to any other shared assets or investments
  • Any binding financial agreements or prenuptial arrangements

Preparing for separation is not always as straightforward as preparing for a more positive event, the timelines are not always set in stone and emotions may be running high and clouding judgement. Take some of the pressure off your shoulders and aim to complete as many of the above preparatory steps as you can and prioritise speaking with a reliable legal professional to help guide you through your rights.

If you’re looking for divorce law specialists, then speak to our experienced staff today.

Regardless of the circumstances of your separation or divorce, the property settlement process can often be exhausting. Without the necessary preparation, it can be lengthy, costly and time-consuming. There is no greater mistake than going in blind; unprepared to negotiate and lacking the right support. Here is how to properly negotiate during a property settlement.

Seek The Right Legal Guidance

Do not skip on seeking counsel on any legal matter, especially where your property and assets are concerned. There are strict deadlines involved in property settlement and numerous options worth considering. The most secure way to get property negotiations handled in an efficient and civil manner and avoid expensive mistakes is to get professional help. Talk to a lawyer who specialises in property settlement to discuss your rights, the law and how to best navigate the process.

Disclose Everything – Keep No Secrets

The need to be crystal clear and transparent during property negotiations cannot be emphasised enough. You will need to disclose all your personal or joint assets and liabilities to your lawyer, your spouse and if there are items you’ve forgotten; yourself, in order to make negotiations as smooth as possible. 

Conclude What’s In The Property Pool

Hopefully your ex-spouse or defacto partner also follows Step 2 closely as it is vital for determining what the total value of the property pool is once all assets and liabilities are taken into account. In order to evaluate certain items accurately, as well as your lawyer, you might want to hire your accountant or other financial professionals to assist in making valuations.

Forget About 50/50 As A Rule

There is no law, rule or regulation that recommends or states any kind of equal, 50/50 division of assets as the standard. While sometimes, this does end up being the case, in many scenarios, both parties will give something they value up in order to reach a settlement, or at least be willing to. So make sure to be aware of what you are willing to lose and what you are willing to bargain with. A cost-benefit analysis or pros and cons discussion may be worthwhile.

Never include the children in this decision-making process or threaten to use factors like child custody as a bargaining tool, it is not fair on their wellbeing, can cause various long term problems and is never seen favorably by any professional or Court.

Work closely with your lawyer, to sum up a deal that you, and the law, could deem fair. When working out your percentage, remember that debt and liabilities are taken into account and non-financial contributions such as being a primary carer, stay-at-home parent or homemaker are valued also.

Don’t Rush

Stay as calm as you can and do not rush any decision-making when it comes to property settlement. The cost of amending a mistake due to an undisclosed asset discovered later is not worth it. Ask your legal professional as many questions as you can throughout the property settlement process and focus on attaining a fair outcome that you can understand.

Be Prepared To Meet In The Middle

This is the best case scenario. Once you are aware of what a fair deal means to you and what you are willing to lose and your ex-spouse experiences the same (ideally), you should commence negotiations until an arrangement where you are able to find middle ground comes up. This is where you settle.

There are a number of property settlement options you can consider with consent orders and binding financial agreements among the more common options. Be sure to discuss all your concerns and queries with an experienced family lawyer you can trust. For more information regarding property settlement negotiations, contact Pentana Stanton Lawyers in Dandenong today.

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While the purpose of dividing your assets, post-separation, with a legally-binding agreement is always the same, there are a few different ways to go through the property settlement process in Australia. Based on your situation, you might want to take a certain approach that will minimise the time, costs and hassles for you and your ex-spouse. Here are three common routes to settlement that people will take.  

1. A Court Ordered Property Settlement

Like most legal disputes, settling the division of your assets in court is not the most ideal option but sometimes it can be necessary. If you and your ex-partner cannot come to a mutual agreement, you can apply to have a court make an order on your behalf. This involves planning, preparing and submitting the required paperwork and paying the court a listing fee.

  • Initiating application – Information about the parties involved, the requested court order and property settlement distribution you seek.
  • Financial statement – Details all your income, assets (superannuation inc.) and liabilities.
  • Affidavit Explains why the Court should make the requested orders on your behalf.  
  • Superannuation Request Form and Declaration – Only if you are seeking a splitting/ flagging order or need further information.

It is important that you maintain accuracy in all your paperwork. A reliable, specialist lawyer is able to help you with these arrangements.

2. Consent Order

If you and your ex-partner are generally on the same page about your property and asset management or simply don’t require a lengthy negotiation period, then you can save time by applying for a consent order. A consent order is filed with the Family Court but does not require the parties to actually be present in court. In most cases (not all), a consent order will be the quicker and less costly option but this depends entirely on your case and circumstances.

You can apply for a consent order for financial matters following divorce such as:

  • The sale, transfer and maintenance of your property
  • Spousal (or de facto) and child maintenance
  • Splitting superannuation  

3. Binding Financial Agreement

This is another common way to settle without physically going to court. As they share a number of similarities and also cover property, superannuation and spousal maintenance; binding financial agreements are commonly compared with consent orders.

A binding financial agreement is not filed to the courts, instead it is made in adherence to strict legislative terms in order to be binding. It is also a requirement that both parties seek independent legal advice for the Agreement to be enforced.

You give up your rights to having your spousal maintenance and property settlement entitlements determined by a Court, so this agreement is an efficient way to safeguard against financial liabilities of spousal maintenance in future and to resolve your financial/property affairs without going to Court. These agreements can only be nullified such as on a technical deficiency or where one party withholds information. If these have not happened it can be much more difficult to dispute in future.

At Pentana Stanton Lawyers, we specialise in Divorce Law and Property Settlement Law. Our reliable experts can help you prepare your binding financial agreement properly. Learn more information about your rights and your options regarding property settlement in Australia and contact the legal experts at Pentana Stanton today.

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Ending a long-term relationship is not easy, but sometimes, separation and divorce are realities that need to be faced. While nobody wishes for their marriage to end with a legal battle, it is, unfortunately, true in a number of circumstances. To help make better decisions during a divorce, here is what you should do before applying for divorce, or during the early stages.

1. Get A Good, Reliable Lawyer

The best way to keep divorce-related legal issues from escalating is to seek legal counsel from an experienced family lawyer. Not only will a lawyer be able to explain all the points mentioned below in greater detail, but they will also support you throughout the whole process: from negotiations and the paperwork to representing you in court if need be.

2. Understand & Take Control Of Your Finances

It is all too common that one partner will handle certain accounts over the other. Just think of how often we hear phrases like:

“I do the business my wife does the books.”
“My partner takes care of the bills.”
“I don’t know, my husband organised it.”

In planning for separation or divorce it is important that you get up to speed with all your shared financial accounts. Understand which accounts will continue to affect you and what you can cut yourself off from during your separation. You don’t want bills in your name that don’t apply to you or to lose services that do apply to you, that are not in your name.

3. Close Joint Accounts

Be sure to close any and all joint accounts including savings, credit card accounts and obtain a new account in your own name. Overspending using marital joint accounts can lead to accusations of dissipating assets in the settlement process – you do not want this.

4. Update Rental Agreements

This goes hand in hand with the above point, but make sure to take care of things like changing names on leases and updating your agreements to reflect your situation. This way you are not liable for any potential issues caused by your partner or any unpaid bills, account or rent.

5. Keep Copies of Any Important Documents

Nobody wants to believe the worst but this is an important precaution anyone dealing with divorce or separation needs to take – especially where kids are concerned. This includes making and keeping copies of documents such as marriage certificates, birth certificates and passports including your children’s. This will avoid any chances of your partner leaving with your children or withholding any of these important documents.

6. Be Mindful Of How You Treat Your Partner

This is particularly important if you have children. You are separating from your partner but this is not the case for your children, the other party is still their parent. So don’t let negative feelings towards your partner affect your judgement and how you treat them in front of the kids.

7. Keep It Respectable

It’s in everyone’s best interests to avoid getting nasty during separation and divorce legal processes. Threats never serve well and court battles are not a desirable option when they could have been avoided in the first place. If you find it difficult to communicate calmly with your former spouse, the most appropriate solution is mediation through your lawyer.

If you need clarification on any of the above points, get in contact with our friendly team of legal experts at Pentana Stanton Lawyers in Dandenong. Our lawyers specialise in family law and assist clients going through separation and divorce with a compassionate and results-oriented approach. If you are thinking about separating or divorce, get in touch with our team today to talk about your options and legal concerns.

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Going through divorce and separation is never easy. Problems will often arise when people get caught up in the small details and issues of the process, that they forgot about the desired outcome they originally wanted. Stay on track, don’t waste time and avoid these mistakes during your separation or divorce.

1. Don’t Pass On Getting Expert Legal Advice

You can significantly disadvantage yourself by trying to take on all the work associated with your divorce on your own without consulting a professional. Absolute accuracy is vital when filling out paperwork and documentation and you will be subject to strict submission deadlines. Negotiations and property settlement can be lengthy and depending on your relations with your partner, unpleasant or distressing.

A good divorce lawyer will be able to assist you with this in an efficient manner. To better your chances of meeting your goals in a timely manner, they can handle negotiations on your behalf and if needed, represent you in family court.

2. Don’t Rely On Advice From Friends

The process of divorce and separation can be as unique as the individuals applying for it. Variable factors such as whether or not you have children, marriage length, financial and non-financial contributions to your marriage, shared assets and the reason for divorce can all impact the process.

While a friend or relative may be able to relate to some of what you’re going through and provide emotional support, when it comes to organising your divorce, you do not want to be confounded by legal or financial advice from non-experts.

3. Avoid Overspending

Ending a long-term marriage often means a lot of mixed emotions but also a sense of liberation as you are on your own once again. It’s best, however, to refrain from large or luxury purchases soon after your separation. During a divorce, overspending while you still have joint accounts with your partner may put you at risk of being accused of dissipating assets.

4. Don’t Publicise Your Issues on Social Media

Maybe you’ll want to change your marital status or announce your divorce on your social media. You may want to talk this over with your spouse but if you think it’s okay with them, this isn’t usually a problem. It is sharing information about important dates, your divorce proceedings and negative comments about your spouse that should be avoided at all costs.

Socially, it’s not pleasant and may alienate friends or networks you may share with your spouse. Legally, what you post or share online at your own will, can be used against you during the divorce process. So it’s best to just not do it.

5. Don’t Lose Sight Of What’s Best For Your Kids

Remember that divorce is between yourself and your partner. Your children do not have the same autonomy in divorcing their other parent and will not think of them in the same way that you do. If there are no reasonable grounds for it, you should never ever use your children and their custody to manipulate your partner during divorce negotiations or settlement.

Always think about what is best for the needs of your children when it comes to custody arrangements. Shared custody is not always easy but it is much more comfortable than the ongoing legal battles and bitterness that results from a custody war during a divorce that can also disturb your children.

Learn More – Pentana Stanton Family Lawyers

Pentana Stanton is a leading Melbourne legal service that specialises in family law and is based in the south-east suburbs. Our team provide a compassionate and results-oriented approach when it comes to separation, divorce, property settlement, child support as well as other legal areas, so you can be assured that you are receiving the best legal support for your case.

For any concerns regarding any of the above five points or your personal divorce process, get in touch with our team today.

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When it comes to divorce or separation, proper childcare should be the main priority. Children are usually the ones who suffer the most during divorce or separation. Both parents have a responsibility to make the process and results of separation as emotionally and financially easy on a child as possible.

In a perfect world, both parents would gain equal visitation rights and both parents would support children equally in terms of finances. But we don’t live in a perfect world. We live in a world where some couples fight to gain custody of kids, while other parents neglect their children’s most basic needs after separation. We live in a world where one parent is often left to deal with all the financial and physical burdens of raising a child or children while the other partner has no input whatsoever.


Child support is a system that aims to assist children and the main guardian of the child financially by enforcing the other parent to contribute financially. This isn’t a perfect system because there are so many grey areas when it comes to raising kids.

Here are a few things you probably don’t know about child support.

Children Have a Legal Right to Financial Assistance from Parents

Every child has a legal right to financial assistance, a safe home environment, and a good education, and it is the parents’ responsibility to provide these basic needs for their children whether they are still together or separated. The parent who has legal custody of the child is mainly responsible for the wellbeing of the child, whereas the other parent might only be required to cover some expenses for the child.

Anyone Can be a Child’s Legal Parents

You don’t have to be a child’s birth mother or father to be considered a parent of the child. Adoptive parents, step-parents, and even members of the child’s family can gain legal custody of a child and will then be considered as the child’s legal parents. Legal parents might still be eligible for child support from biological and non-biological parents even though they might not be a birth mother or father.

Child Support Amounts are Established Through a Child Support Assessment

Parents need to apply at Human Services for a full assessment of child support before the child support amount will be established. At Pentana Stanton, we can also assist with the legal child support assessment so you can quickly find out exactly what another parent should pay.

Child Support Self-Management is a Possibility

It is entirely possible to manage child support negotiations and agreements all on your own, but in these cases, you always have the risk that the other parent might not pay up. Pentana Stanton can assist with drawing up legally and binding child support agreements between parents.

Child Support Does End

Children remain dependents until they reach the age of 18. There are scenarios where parents are legally obligated to pay child support for much longer, such as in the case of a disability or illness, or if the child is still going to school on a full-time basis. When children marry or voluntary withdraw from parental control, parents are no longer obligated to pay child support even though the child might be younger than 18 years of age.

You Can Apply for Child Support at Any Time

Raising children is an ongoing challenge and the parent with legal custody can apply for child support at any given time, even years after the divorce.

Child support is a complex topic that is best left in the hands of professionals. If you want the best possible outcome for child support, then we urge you to use Pentana Stanton solicitors.

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The challenges of dealing with work injuries are numerous and extend beyond healing and taking care of the injury itself. Difficult issues that arise from a work injury include the process of getting compensation from the employer and the potentially strained employee-employer relations the experience, or issues with the process may cause.

The best way to get a positive financial and diplomatic (regarding your work relations) outcome for your work injury is by knowing your rights, following the legal steps, and by using a good solicitor to handle the case on your behalf.

Here are a few things you need to know about your work injury compensation rights.

Medical Treatment

It is illegal for an employer to keep you from seeking medical treatment. You have the right to first aid treatment at the workplace and you also have the right to visit your doctor or seek hospitalisation if your injury is quite severe.

Records Are Important

Written records are incredibly important if you want a good chance of getting legal compensation. You should give employers written notice of any work-related illnesses and state all the details on work injury reports.

Confirm Your Sick Pay

You may get a number of sick leave days and you are entitled to sick pay, but the amount you are entitled to might not be equivalent to your full daily pay rate. For example, if you exceeded your number of sick leave days, the chances are good that you might not get compensated at all. Confirm your sick pay with your employer so you know where you stand.

Attend Your Medical Appointments

Plenty of illnesses and work injuries require various treatments such as physiotherapy, additional checkups, and more to get you back to your healthy self. It is important to attend these appointments because they will serve as proof of your injury. Employers are also legally bound to release you for additional medical appointments.

Take Time for Recovery

Severe work-related injuries and illnesses can result in hospitalisation and can require quite a long recovery period. If an employer is pressuring you to return to work before you have fully healed, then you should seek legal advice. As an unfit employee you could be a danger in the workplace. Returning to work too soon could also worsen injuries and result in longer healing times.

You Can Ask for Light Duties

If you absolutely have to return to work due to financial obligations, then you can always request light duties from your employer while you are still recovering. Light duties can include a number of things such as abstaining from heavy lifting or refraining from standing for long periods of time.

Seek Compensation

It is entirely possible to get the needed compensation for your work-related injury. Medical treatments, medication, and hospitalisation are costly, especially if you don’t have a medical aid. It is especially important to seek compensation if your work injury has resulted in permanent damage that can affect your ability to work and earn a living for the rest of your life. When you are seeking compensation, it is important to consult with our compensation lawyers at Pentana Stanton. We can give you the best advice with regards to your legal rights, the amount of money you want to be compensated for, and we can handle all negotiations for you.

Solicitors are important for helping you follow the right steps in gaining compensation for a work injury. It is especially important to use an experienced solicitor so you don’t end up damaging your work relationship with your employer. With legal advice and a professional to handle negotiations, you can take care of yourself and your job.

Most marriages today end in divorce.  This is a sad little fact that probably doesn’t make you feel any better when you are busy signing those papers and pretty soon you will be bombarded with one question; why…  Why did your relationship end in divorce? And more importantly why do so many marriages end in divorce?

There are an infinite number of reasons for marriages to end in divorce and in most cases, more than a single reason contributed to a failed marriage.  Most long-term relationships also don’t evaporate overnight. Most couples call it quits after a very long time of struggling and battling to make things work.  

But it might help you to view some of the most common reasons relationships end in divorce so you can either try to fix these errors before it starts affecting your relationship or so you can start accepting the inevitable.    

Here are the five most common reasons relationships end in divorce.

Couples stop being curious about one another

When you live with the same person you get to know them pretty well – in some cases too well.  Pretty soon you know exactly what they will think of something before enquiring about them and you will know exactly what words will fall from their lips before they utter them.  While it is great to know someone so well it also has a few downsides and one of the biggest downsides is boredom. You get bored with someone if you can predict their every move and couples stop being curious about one another.  To avoid this common relationship error it is so important to keep being curious about your partner and to keep doing interesting and surprising things.

Too much communication

Healthy communication can do a lot for your relationship but sometimes we say just too much.  In modern relationships, there are so many ways to communicate with one another. We communicate over social media, through friends and family, via text messaging, over phone calls, through actions, and in person.  Talking too much can have a suffocating effect or can make someone feel pressured. It also takes the fun out of personal conversations when you are constantly texting your every thought and in many cases partners end up saying hurtful things that they can never take back or they just look too deeply into a specific situation.

Sex becomes stressful

Sex in a relationship should be fun and should be a way to connect and get close to one another.  But as time goes on sex can lead to misunderstandings, arguments and can put a lot of strain on a relationship when one partner isn’t as active as the other or when both partners feel they are not performing well enough.  This is also a pretty challenging topic to take on since very few people know how to express their sexual needs accurately and honestly.

Arguments about money

Money and financial stress lead to plenty of frustration.  Without money you cannot enjoy activities, you cannot spoil one another, it becomes hard to maintain a great look and it is incredibly tough to feel worthy.  All of these affects your relationship in one way or another and often leads to divorce.

One or both partners feel suffocated

Every successful relationship requires sacrifice – a lot of sacrifices.  But in many cases, one partner ends up giving up too much or is left to deal with too many responsibilities while the other partner still maintains a sense of freedom.  It can be so easy to feel suffocated if you cannot see your friends, do the things you love or simply get a break. Feeling suffocated naturally makes you reach out to others or want to escape your environment.  

It is important to watch out for these five common reasons for relationships to fail but it is also important to acknowledge when there just isn’t something to be done about these problems.  With the right help, you can save your relationship or you can break things off and start afresh and enjoy the full and beloved life that everyone deserves.

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